In this series for SexIs, I talk to guys about where our culture stands regarding male sexuality, what’s lacking from the conversation—and how the questions we aren’t asking effect us all. I interviewed male sex writers, porn stars, sex educators and asked them what was missing from the discussion about male sexuality.
- Michael Alvear
Sexis debuts The Man Project with an opening salvo from relationship expert, Michael Alvear, and learns that the true test of a man is about much more than the level of his testosterone.
- David Steinberg
Prolific writer, photographer and sexual activist David Steinberg was recently named Erotic Photographer of the Year. His photographs of disabled people having sex are getting a lot of press now, but David has a long history of sexually progressive work.
- Buck Angel
Known as “the man with a pussy,” Buck Angel has become a cultural icon. He’s a successful porn star—who’s addressed audiences at Yale University. Angel does the talk-show circuit, but when he took Howard Stern up on a dare to ride the Simian Sex Machine, the joke was squarely on Stern.
- Grant Stoddard
Grant Stoddard is an underdog of the sex-writing world. An accidental sex-pert, his sharp pen and self-deprecating style have kept fans rooting for him since 2001, when he launched a sex column at Nerve.com—despite his limited sexual experiences. Stoddard’s “I Did it For Science”, a gonzo-style hands-on account of his personal exploits, saw him tackle everything from attending an elite orgy to having sex with a sample Real Doll at the factory.
- Zak Smith
Zak Smith is an artist whose work has been featured in the Whitney Biennial and The Museum of Modern Art, among others. Known for his sketchy, vibrant paintings of women that emphasize both the mundane and the sexy, Zak Smith is also Zak Sabbath, an alt porn star who has shared the screen with the likes of Sasha Grey and Joanna Angel. Smith wrote a book about his XXX experiences: We Did Porn, which is intelligent, humorous and insightful. Here, Zak spills on just how far men will go for women—and gives us a juicy excerpt from We Did Porn.
- David Jay
David Jay is an asexual activist. He’s the founder of AVEN, the world’s largest online asexual community. Jay’s goal is to create open honest dialogue about asexuality among both sexual and asexual people. He has brought his message to mainstream America on The View, Montel, ABC Primetime, CNN, Fox News and more.
- Eon Mckai
Eon Mckai makes interesting porn. Porn that I would recommend. Porn that’s hot. A straight punk rock dude (his moniker is a tribute to Minor Threat’s Ian MacKaye), the porn Mckai makes has been described as lady friendly and sex-positive. His focus is on art and cinematography, but in shooting real alternative boys and girls, he bucks traditional gender roles and ideas on what sex has to be.
- Danny Wylde
Meet your newest porn-crush. Danny Wylde has a blog in which it’s all too easy to lose hours while engrossed in his writing. He writes honestly and articulately about what he does for a living: starring in porn. Danny’s been in mainstream adult films, was around for the heyday of alt porn and often stars in feminist films. Through it all, he has quite a following among female fans of porn.